October 12, 2011

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When I Loved Myself Enough Part 3


Today we will finish this gem of a book with a few more of Kim McMillen’s sayings.  I encourage you to create your own little book that reminds you of what it looks like to love yourself enough.

When I loved myself enough…I quit answering the telephone when I don’t want to talk.

When I loved myself enough…I began to see my purpose and gently wean myself from the distractions.

When I loved myself enough…I learned to stop what I am doing, if even for a moment, and comfort the part of me who is scared.

When I loved myself enough…I learned to say no when I want to and yes when I want to.

When I loved myself enough…I began to feed my hunger for solitude and revel in the inexplicable contentment that is its companion.

When I loved myself enough…I stopped trying to banish the critical voices from my head. Now I say “Thank you for your views” And they feel heard.  End of discussion.

When I loved myself enough…I could see how funny life is, how funny I am and how funny you are.

When I loved myself enough…I quit trying to be a savior for others.

When I loved myself enough…I lost my fear of speaking my truth for I have come to see how good it is.

When I loved myself enough…I began pouring my feelings into my journals. These loving companions speak my language. No translation needed.

When I loved myself enough…I learned to grieve the hurts in life when they happen instead of making my heart heavy from lugging them around.

When I loved myself enough…I forgave myself for all the times I thought I wasn’t good enough.

When I loved myself enough…I began to taste freedom.

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October 12, 2011

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When I Loved Myself Enough Part 2

When I loved myself enough….I stopped working so hard…. and made time to write this blog!!

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September 19, 2011

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When I Loved Myself Enough Part I

This little book is a must for anyone who struggles with loving and accepting themselves. It is one of those gift books that have a few gems on each page. I will quote from Kim McMillen’s Introduction: ” For many years I lived with a guarded heart.  I did not know how to extend love […]

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August 29, 2011

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Ten Commandments of Self-Esteem VI-X

Okay, here we go onto the next 5 commandments for feeling good about ourselves: VI. What is not right for thee is also not right for thy brethren. (This means that you don’t sacrifice yourself for others i.e. stay in your rotten marriage for the kids) Resolution: Discover the areas of your life where you […]

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August 22, 2011

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Ten Commandments of Self-Esteem I-V

This is just a little book, by Catherine Cardinal, Ph.D. but a good one. I always feel better about myself when I read it. Only 83 pages, it consists of 10 commandments to remind us to love ourselves.  Each commandment is followed by a few pages about it and then some resolutions to help us […]

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August 15, 2011

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Stop Rescuing Others!

This is the last self-defeating behavior I will blog about from the book Too Nice For Your Own Good, by Duke Robinson. I chose this one, because I think it is the reason for giving so much advice. Many of us have spent a lifetime trying to fix/help/rescue our parent(s), spouse(s), friends and children.  If […]

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August 8, 2011

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Stop Giving Advice!

Giving advice is one of the mistakes we make by being too nice, according to the book Too Nice For Your Own Good.  And I really need this advice on not giving advice!  I can not seem to help my nice self when it comes to offering suggestions, solutions, facts I know, and my opinions. […]

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August 1, 2011

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Reasoning With Irrationality

This is one of the Too Nice for your Own Good behaviors that I really need to get.  At first I thought Duke Robinson had it mixed up- that it was being nice to reason with irrational people.  After all, I wasn’t yelling at them. But he set me straight.  I love this chapter, because […]

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July 26, 2011

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Too Nice For Your Own Good?

Years and years ago I read a Bradshaw book that described a term I identified with whole heartedly: toxic niceness. That is me. I am toxically nice.  I used to say I was sorry to everyone all the time….pathetic. And I was that way before I moved down South! Imagine my delight when I ran […]

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July 21, 2011

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The How Of Happiness Part II

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Well, I promised you that I would take the Happiness Strategy Quiz and I did.  This is a hard quiz to figure out and take.  I had to think a lot and then the scoring was difficult too.  So beware…you might give up.  But I finished the quiz and these are the Happiness Strategies I […]

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July 9, 2011

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The How of Happiness

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Well this book on happiness is the first one I am reviewing, but it won’t be the last!  I just can’t resist buying and reading any book on how to be happy.  It’s not that I am always unhappy, but I have had my fair share of stress, heartbreak, tough situations, and depression.  I like […]

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June 28, 2011

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The 1% Solution: For Work and Life

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This 150 page book is bright and fun to read: big print, lots of dialogue and it reads more like a novel about a man named Ken who talks with 6 different people who are using this method to improve their life.  If you like the type of self-help book where the main character interacts […]

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June 25, 2011

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Final Post on Switch-Tweak the Environment Part 5

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This is my last post on the book Switch.  We have talked about giving clear directions to the Rider – your rational side.  We have talked about motivating your Elephant – your emotional side. Today we will talk about changing the Path. By far the easiest and simplest strategy to make change happen is to set […]

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June 25, 2011

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Switch-Shrink the Change-Baby Steps for Your Elephant Part 4

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We are continuing with our exploration of change with the ideas from the book Switch by the Heath Brothers.  Motivating ourselves is difficult, which is why Switch refers to our emotions as an elephant.  In the last blog, we talked about finding the feelings that make us want to change.  This time we will explore how shrinking […]

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June 25, 2011

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Switch- Finding the Feeling: Motivation to Change Part 3

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How many times do we concentrate on strategies, data, structure, logic, etc to get others to change?  Most of us follow this formula: Analyze-Think-Change. We use it to try to change ourselves too. Sometimes we use scare tactics to try to get people to feel fear and then change, but does it work? Research shows […]

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